Life is all about deals you make, both physical deals - involving the lifeless matter, and social deals, involving those who live around you. In fact, relationships are all about making deals, whether you like it or not. The only, ONLY exception can be the parent - children relationship. This is specially observed in animals, rather than humans. A video of a mother duck fighting her life out to protect her ducklings - I'm not sure if it's on YouTube, as it has no stupid dance moves or rubbish music of any sort - was really touching. What did the mother duck expect in return? Nothing, nothing AT ALL.
BUT when it comes to almost all other types of relationships, that is NOT the case. It's where you give, and take. If what you are giving is inadequate with respect to what you get, or vice - versa in most cases, the bond can be fragile. A friend who helps you a lot in your hard times will get hurt if you are not there to help him in his tough moment. You'll feel quite disrespectful of a teacher who doesn't teach his/her subject nicely, or treats you (may be personally or as a group) badly. If the boyfriend is not being attentive to his girlfriend's matters, she may be compelled to find an alternative. Once a service provider is not giving you what you want, it will essentially be a loss to his business. Don't pay the bills on time, and you are left in dark. You give way to those coming from the right in the roundabout, and take it when you become the subject. Give, and take. You may say otherwise, and quote some internet wisdom. But this is the abstract truth. Give, and take. Notice the order - GIVE, and take. NOT the other way around.
But today's society, highly modernized and technologically advancing at a rabid (yeah, rabid, rather than rapid) pace, seems not to care about the giving part too much. The over-time desperation for success has left men thriving for what they need, AND NOT on what they have to return. Duties and responsibilities often fight for domination. The overall result is a tattered society which has become increasingly selfish. You have one day dedicated your mother who raised you up, and gave you so much that you can't even imagine of repaying. JUST ONE DAY, and forget her for the remaining three hundred and sixty four days in the calendar. You spend the Valentine's day with your sweetheart, giving her flower bouquets, gifts, lavish dinners, and romantic words, and treat her with total indifference from 15th February onwards. You don't care a bit about the other motorist seeking for some way to get over to the other lane. You take, and get irritated when you don't get it as you wish. But you don't think in the same way when you GIVE.
The ethics, values and traditions of the society that we live in are deteriorating rapidly (rabidly, I can say). Fifteen odd years back, bitch was total filth. But now it's such an integrated component in the vocabulary. May be for reasons that are not very bad, but still it indicates a pathetic decline in the values. The society is forgetting its duty, DUTY of giving the RIGHT amount. That leads to some sort of deprivation. And the party concerned too is human, meaning that he/she/they will feel very upset about not getting what they want. This invariably leads them to find an alternative method to fulfill their needs. And their ways? Think of it. They start off with a modest whine. Where do they end up? Protests, divorces, breakups, murders, robberies, WARS!
Admit it, life is full of deals. You take, and you shall GIVE what you ought to give. That doesn't take a lot of work, trust me. A word, a smile, a dollar, a thought, a moment can cure ailments that can cost much more if ignored. So take, take what you need, BUT give what you should, at the RIGHT moment. Deal, or no deal? The answer is yours.
